black && blue

…fashionably and literally!  One thing you have to probably don’t want to know about me is that I hate scary movies, tv shows, books, scary… anything, with a passion!  Yet, le hubs, much to my dismay, he loves scary everything.  When I was a little girl I snuck around the back of the couch while my mom and older sisters were watching “Candyman”.  She couldn’t figure out why for an entire week I slept on the floor fully wedged underneath my bed.  I had a huge mirror over my dresser that pointed directly at me while I was sleeping and there was no way I was going to risk it.  Even at 29 I still have full on nightmares, for weeks on end.  Where was I going with this?  Oh yeah, black and blue… le hubs made me watch the entire first season of “The Strain”.  You can only imagine how that ended, or maybe you can’t, thrashing in my sleep because I dreamt Murphy (our puppy who sleeps in bed with us) had been turned into a vampire and was trying to eat us.  A few thrashes in and I kicked our nightstand (which of course immediately woke me) and ended up with a gigantic bruise on my shin and a very sore thigh.  I now sleep with heels next to my bed, I figure a stiletto is better protection than nothing right?!  Are ya’ll judging me yet?

SheInside Black Contrast Fur Sleeveless Vest-7

SheInside Black Contrast Fur Sleeveless Vest-10

SheInside Black Contrast Fur Sleeveless Vest-18

SheInside Black Contrast Fur Sleeveless Vest-3

SheInside Black Contrast Fur Sleeveless Vest-11

Longline Vest: SheInside.  Sweater: H&M (great option here).  Pants: H&M (last year) similar here.  Shoes: Schutz (last year) LOVE these.  Purse: Chanel.  Earrings: Baublebar.

I always knew

Be forewarned, this text will have absolutely nothing to do with the following outfit and quite possibly be ridonculously long. I often get asked how I knew my husband was the one. I figured what better time to answer this than on our two year wedding anniversary. Let me start by saying, I always knew. Well, I take that back, from the second I met him in person I knew. Ok, I take that back too, from the second time I saw him in person I knew…

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You see, to truly understand this you have to know our story. I was a vendor for my husband’s company for a few years. There was an issue (every single month) in our payout differences. I would later find out this was through no fault of his own, we will just call it a contract slip that had us signed off on 30% higher than what our payout should have been. At the time though, this difference made him my least favorite person to deal with. On the 17th of the month I dreaded going in to work as I knew that one of my first emails and at the top of my to do list was to reconcile this difference. Every month this resulted in the exact same email chain and my cringing at the site of his name in my inbox.  We grew to have a strong dislike for one another and I literally thought he was incapable of doing basic math.  Here is what you signed off on, multiply that by how many leads we delivered and voila here is what you owe.

After moving on to a job that brought me to Los Angeles I received an email via LinkedIn from Andy before one of our industries biggest conventions.  In this email Andy asked if I had any time to meet.  My exact reply? I jumped at the idea of meeting him in person and immediately said yes.  Haha, yeah right, it was more along the lines of “I am no longer working within your vertical and my schedule is pretty packed.  I am sorry but I do not see a reason for us to meet.”  A little harsh?  Ok, yes, maybe.  His next response came within minutes, “I like to keep touch with past connections and would really like to set aside some time to meet.”.  Something inside of me made me cave this time, I responded setting up a time for a meeting.

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One month later at LeadsCon while getting ready for my client dinner I received a text from Andy, “I know our meeting is not scheduled until tomorrow but I am with one of my companies heads right now and would like to introduce you two.”.  Walking into Stack I find the two of them, this in and of itself was not an easy task as I was going by a half inch by half inch photo on LinkedIn.  Not a single word from Andy as I say “hi” and shake his hand.  His coworker introduced himself, nudging Andy to introduce himself as well (still nothing).  I remember trying to come up with any excuse to get myself out of the awkwardness, thankfully I was already running slightly late for my dinner.  I excused myself and left thinking wow, he really is a jerk. 

The next day I was sitting at a table after having just finished a meeting and in walks Andy.  For some reason at that very moment he became the only person in the world I wanted to see.  What I didn’t tell you about the night before was that he was quite the looker (oh wow, now I sound like my grandmother, who uses the word looker?!) . I had the biggest, dorkiest, grin on my face that I tried to hide behind my water glass (I can’t even imagine how awkward that looked).  I felt like Christina Ricci in “Casper” when Devon Sawa walked down the stairs in human form.  As hard as I tried to hide it he had seen it, he even called me out on it.  After talking business for a while I couldn’t believe how easily he made me laugh, how naturally talking to him was.  We both ended up cancelling our work commitments for the night and having dinner.  He had told me he had recently found out about the contract mix up and wanted to schedule the meeting to apologize for the headache it had caused.  That apology actually never came that night but rather the night we got engaged.

The next day I almost missed my flight back home from all the conference chaos and late meetings.  Running through the airport, heels in hand, my phone beeped.  The text read “I am sorry I was so speechless the other night, I just didn’t expect you. I can’t wait to be in LA next month.  I can’t wait to see you again!”.  At that very moment it was all over.

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You see I knew my husband was the one when I couldn’t help but smile the second he walked in the room, when it felt as though, amongst hundreds of other people, it was only him and I at that very moment.  When talking to him came so naturally that it was like I was talking to a friend that I had known my entire life.  When the distance didn’t matter because I would rather be with him a few days a month than never be with him at all.  At the very moment I wasn’t looking for love, I found it, I found my best friend and soul mate all at once.

Coat: H&M (old) love this one and this one.  Sweater: Nordstrom (last year) this years version here.  Dress (worn as shirt): Cedric Charlier.  Pants: Blank NYC.  Shoes: Converse.  Scarf: Zara (love this one).

 

sentimental

“I’m sentimental
So I walk in the rain
I’ve got some habits
Even I can’t explain
Go to the corner
I end up in Spain
Why try to change me now
I sit and daydream
I’ve got daydreams galore
Cigarette ashes
There they go on the floor
Go away weekends
Leave my keys in the door
Why try to change me now”

- Fiona Apple “Why Try to Change Me Now”

Zara Leather Trouser in Wine-5

Zara Leather Trouser in Wine-8

Zara Leather Trouser in Wine-11

Jacket: Banana Republic (30% off with code BRSHOP – today only!).  Top: J.Crew.  Trousers: Zara (LOVE these and  these and an additional 25% off with code FAMILY25).  Heels: Shoedazzle (old) equally amazing here.  Hat: BCBGMaxazria (last season) similar here.  Purse: Chanel.

grey skies

Even on overcast, slightly grey, days I absolutely love my city!  While I do like to see the best in any situation I am not one of those everything is awesome or “I love everything” girls by any means.  But moving my family back to my Seattle, where I grew up, is one of the best decisions we have ever made.  Even on rainy and overcast days I truly can’t believe how beautiful it is, not to mention yes to all of these!

ASOS Block Panel Cape-9

ASOS Block Panel Cape-8

ASOS Block Panel Cape-6

Cape: ASOS.  Dress (worn as top): Nasty Gal.  Jeans: Anine Bing.  (Faux) Fur: ASOS (I forewarned y’all that their selection is too good this season).  Heels: L.A.M.B. (beyond old) similar here.  Necklaces: HRH Collection.  Purse: Chanel.

TGIF

“Not everyone will appreciate what you do for them.  You have to figure out who’s worth your kindness and who’s just taking advantage.” -Unknown

ASOS Leather Look Pencil Skirt in Oxblood-14

ASOS Leather Look Pencil Skirt in Oxblood-10

Nasty Gal Get Down Button Up-3

ASOS Leather Look Pencil Skirt in Oxblood-15

ASOS Leather Look Pencil Skirt in Oxblood-16

Nasty Gal Get Down Button Up-4

Jacket: H&M (old) LOVE this and this.  Top: Nasty Gal (green and blue version here).  Skirt: ASOS.  Heels: Schutz.  Bag: Chanel.  Jewelry: Marrin Costello, Marrin Costello, Emerson Thorpe.

geo cool

After debating this sweater for a few days hours I brought my girlfriends into the mix.  Nay – 5 Yay – 2, so naturally I discarded the nays and went with my gut.  Most men, more specifically my husband, would say “why even ask if you were going to get it anyways?”.  Well to answer that, because I’m a girl and sometimes we ask unnecessary questions.  It’s the same thing as him asking me if I want to go see “Annabelle” when he knows full well my response will be absolutely not before he can even finish the sentence.

Front Row Shop Geometric Sweater-17

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Front Row Shop Geometric Sweater-14

Sweater: Front Row Shop.  Shorts: ASOS.  Booties: Alexander Wang (old) similar here and here.  Purse: Chanel.  Choker: Forever21.

weekender

When it comes to being comfortable most girls reach for a pair of jeans.  For me, while I love a great pair of denim, I naturally gravitate towards a not quite body hugging midi dress.  While I don’t want to be boring there is something about it that is just so easy for me.  A great jacket, a few jewels, flats or heels and you are ready for whatever comes  your way throughout the day.  It is long enough that I can be comfortable cheering on Emma at soccer, go about my weekend errands after and statement enough to transition easily into dinner.  Now if only you knew how many of these beauties (all different shapes and colors) were hiding hanging proudly in my closet, that is a number I will never disclose;).

Sole Society Lacie Weekender-9

Sole Society Lacie Weekender-8

ASOS Knit Sweater Dress White-12

Sole Society Lacie Weekender-4

ASOS Knit Sweater Dress White-14

Sole Society Lacie Weekender-7

ASOS Knit Sweater Dress White-13

Sole Society Lacie Weekender-5

Jacket: BCBGMaxazria (love this version as well).  Dress: ASOS.  Shoes: LAMB (old) love these and these.  Bag: Sole Society c/o.  Jewelry: Marrin Costello, Marrin Costello, Marrin Costello, Emerson Thorpe, H&M.

a man’s point of view

 

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*first look (despite how it looks here I actually cried first)

The calendar read January 7th, 2013. Add to cart. Proceed to checkout. It was still a few weeks until this purchase would be unveiled beneath a surprisingly not so poorly wrapped birthday present by yours truly. This was not a camera. It was an investment…in Cara. Sometimes your most impulsive decisions can be your best ones. If a better camera, a better lens, meant everyone else could more clearly see what I see, then there is no hesitation. The blog began.

I was fully prepared to support this passion of hers. Well…I take that back. I thought I was fully prepared. You see a fashion blog and you see it for the final product. You see 4-5 daily photos and some (hopefully) creative copy within. What most people don’t realize is, running a fashion blog is like picking out clothes for a first date…except this first date is nearly every day of every week. You debate with yourself over not only what to wear, but how to wear it…..Should I leave only the top two buttons unbuttoned? Should I roll up my sleeves? Ooooo a hat, yes, I’ll wear a hat. Wait, now I look like Jon Cryer in Sixteen Candles. That’s not a good look for anyone. And no, you Can’t Buy Me Love by simply ripping the sleeves off my shirt to give me an instant cool factor. Okay, wait, that is what was going through my head on first dates. However, these are the types of questions that I field from Cara daily, and questions that I’m positive she asks herself when I’m not around. Just insert Ringwald in place of Cryer and Dempsey….you get the idea.

So, once you factor in the outfit selection, the time it takes to choose a shoot location, the writing, the editing, the photo touch ups, etc….you have yourself a separate full time job. If you don’t have passion for this, you won’t get past week one. And here we are in month 22. I say “we” because we’re a team. Not just Cara and me, but Emma as well. We all make compromises and sacrifices along the way, but you try not to let each other give up on what truly makes them happy, as you figure out how to cut back on everything else to allow for it.

After watching Cara’s blog for some time now, I now realize that it’s not about the camera you use, the price of clothing you choose to promote, the amount of time you spend trying to come up with the right copy (although clever and entertaining as it might be). It’s about style and letting “you” be expressed through that style. It’s safe to say, I have very little to no style. But as for Cara and many other fashion bloggers that dedicate a substantial portion of their daily life to this, you are a big reason why we will never resort to wearing those uniforms so often depicted in movies that are supposed to take place in the future. Don’t “beam me up Scotty”, I’ll be fine right here. Let’s keep being different, and be better for it.

Lastly, thanks to all the followers and fellow bloggers. Thanks to the people behind the lens, which we know in most cases is the significant other. And to those significant others, thanks for putting up with comments such as “let’s do one more vertical shot,” “get a lower angle”, “make sure you blur the background on this one.” These blogs are not possible without you, so don’t ever feel underappreciated. Thanks specifically to Emma for taking rapid fire shots of her mother like she’s a tourist with only 5 minutes left until the bus leaves, as she establishes herself as one of the youngest fashion photogs in the biz.

Cara. I believe in this blog. And I believe in you. Keep inspiring.

Love, Andy

fix you

“When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you”

- “Fix You” – Coldplay

Shoemint Classic Leopard Pump-3

ASOS Oversized Scarf in Stripe-11

ASOS Oversized Scarf in Stripe-16

ASOS Oversized Scarf in Stripe-15

Shoemint Classic Leopard Pump-8

Shoemint Classic Leopard Pump-4

Jacket: H&M (sold out) Love this one and this one.  Top: Ann Taylor.  Jeans: Anine Bing.  Heels: Shoemint (love this option).  Scarf: ASOS.  Bag: Chanel.