I realize I am taking a huge risk by writing this post. I went back and forth for hours on whether I should post it or not. I actually had an outfit post ready and set for today but felt a need to delay and write this instead. I came across a trailer for a documentary following the lives of several bloggers through multiple different avenues. While reading through the comments tearing bloggers down below each video I felt my heart sink. At the risk of being too honest the comments were quite ignorant.
My husband is very proud of what I do and loves to share about my blog. I think it is for everything I take on and I still find time to follow something I am passionate about. Yet, at times, when he mentions my blog in a social setting I find myself cringing and sinking into myself a bit. Because I am not proud or because I am ashamed? No, but rather because the stereotype that so many have of fashion bloggers. That we are vain, materialistic, superficial, narcissistic, mean and uneducated. Stereotypes that I can somewhat understand people having as movies and shows have deeply fed into them. Stereotypes that came through so very clearly in the comments I viewed. I am done sinking into myself in those situations because I am truly very proud of this blog and what it has become.
I love sharing myself with all of you, and while I am open, this blog is still such a small part of who I am. I am not a “soccer mom who needs validation”, a “Rich Women With Perfect Facades who writes about stuff online”, I am much more than the “shitty diapers I once changed”. I am a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, I run a marketing company… and, yes, I am a blogger as well. While I know the comments were not about me specifically I can’t help that they affected me. I put myself out there knowing what the stereotypes are and in hopes that in some way I can change them. While knowing at the same time I am not “large enough” to change them. Countless hours of work and energy go into each post, much more than I ever imagined when I took this on. Time and work that I am happy and 100% willing to put in because I am so grateful for all the friends and opportunities Cara’s Cliche has brought me. I am grateful for and humbled by all your emails, each one truly makes my day, I love hearing your stories and interacting with each and every one of you. I have met so many incredible people from all over the world that I may have never encountered otherwise.
I started this blog as a way to express myself and follow my passion while in some way hopefully inspiring others. If I can even touch one person through here then it makes everything I have put into it worth it. I am proud of the woman I have become and the life I have worked incredibly hard to build… and to all of you, thank you! From the bottom of my heart, thank you for believing in me, thank you for following along on this journey with me, and thank you for all your support and letting me share a part of myself with you! Whether you are new or have been a reader from day one, THANK YOU!