Be forewarned, this text will have absolutely nothing to do with the following outfit and quite possibly be ridonculously long. I often get asked how I knew my husband was the one. I figured what better time to answer this than on our two year wedding anniversary. Let me start by saying, I always knew. Well, I take that back, from the second I met him in person I knew. Ok, I take that back too, from the second time I saw him in person I knew…
You see, to truly understand this you have to know our story. I was a vendor for my husband’s company for a few years. There was an issue (every single month) in our payout differences. I would later find out this was through no fault of his own, we will just call it a contract slip that had us signed off on 30% higher than what our payout should have been. At the time though, this difference made him my least favorite person to deal with. On the 17th of the month I dreaded going in to work as I knew that one of my first emails and at the top of my to do list was to reconcile this difference. Every month this resulted in the exact same email chain and my cringing at the site of his name in my inbox. We grew to have a strong dislike for one another and I literally thought he was incapable of doing basic math. Here is what you signed off on, multiply that by how many leads we delivered and voila here is what you owe.
After moving on to a job that brought me to Los Angeles I received an email via LinkedIn from Andy before one of our industries biggest conventions. In this email Andy asked if I had any time to meet. My exact reply? I
jumped at the idea of meeting him in person and immediately said yes. Haha, yeah right, it was more along the lines of “I am no longer working within your vertical and my schedule is pretty packed. I am sorry but I do not see a reason for us to meet.” A little harsh? Ok, yes, maybe. His next response came within minutes, “I like to keep touch with past connections and would really like to set aside some time to meet.”. Something inside of me made me cave this time, I responded setting up a time for a meeting.
One month later at LeadsCon while getting ready for my client dinner I received a text from Andy, “I know our meeting is not scheduled until tomorrow but I am with one of my companies heads right now and would like to introduce you two.”. Walking into Stack I find the two of them, this in and of itself was not an easy task as I was going by a half inch by half inch photo on LinkedIn. Not a single word from Andy as I say “hi” and shake his hand. His coworker introduced himself, nudging Andy to introduce himself as well (still nothing). I remember trying to come up with any excuse to get myself out of the awkwardness, thankfully I was already running slightly late for my dinner. I excused myself and left thinking wow, he really is a jerk.
The next day I was sitting at a table after having just finished a meeting and in walks Andy. For some reason at that very moment he became the only person in the world I wanted to see. What I didn’t tell you about the night before was that he was quite the looker (oh wow, now I sound like my grandmother, who uses the word looker?!) . I had the biggest, dorkiest, grin on my face that I tried to hide behind my water glass (I can’t even imagine how awkward that looked). I felt like Christina Ricci in “Casper” when Devon Sawa walked down the stairs in human form. As hard as I tried to hide it he had seen it, he even called me out on it. After talking business for a while I couldn’t believe how easily he made me laugh, how naturally talking to him was. We both ended up cancelling our work commitments for the night and having dinner. He had told me he had recently found out about the contract mix up and wanted to schedule the meeting to apologize for the headache it had caused. That apology actually never came that night but rather the night we got engaged.
The next day I almost missed my flight back home from all the conference chaos and late meetings. Running through the airport, heels in hand, my phone beeped. The text read “I am sorry I was so speechless the other night, I just didn’t expect you. I can’t wait to be in LA next month. I can’t wait to see you again!”. At that very moment it was all over.
You see I knew my husband was the one when I couldn’t help but smile the second he walked in the room, when it felt as though, amongst hundreds of other people, it was only him and I at that very moment. When talking to him came so naturally that it was like I was talking to a friend that I had known my entire life. When the distance didn’t matter because I would rather be with him a few days a month than never be with him at all. At the very moment I wasn’t looking for love, I found it, I found my best friend and soul mate all at once.
Coat: H&M (old) love this one and this one. Sweater: Nordstrom (last year) this years version here. Dress (worn as shirt): Cedric Charlier. Pants: Blank NYC. Shoes: Converse. Scarf: Zara (love this one).